Its All About Me

So I have a hard time with reacting negatively with a lot of stuff, like negative comments or remarks about a lot. I have a hard time seeing the point in a lot so I just make a rude comment. Ill nod my head at you and look you strait in the eye and lie to you that I understand and I'm going to do it. But in my head I've decided that I don't like your idea and I'm going to do it my way and you can go eat some dirt for all I care. my mind is set to do what I want my way, and don't you know "its all about me." Sometimes it takes a lot to get out of this thinking habit but its hard and it takes a lot to make me realize I'm being selfish or rude. sometimes it just takes my dad to make a sarcastic comment "its all about you isn't it" or I've had friends and couple times random people tell me. I don't like being this way and i try to be more open minded about things, I would tend to be closed minded about it. I'm not really good with letting others make suggestions when i like mine perfectly fine. I was wondering if anybody else felt the way i did. Its quite annoying.

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Random Thought As A Teenager

So when your in the way of letting yourself move forward. I was thinking about this, how people can get stuck in certain parts of their life. Thought about times I got stuck and how hard it can be to get out of being stuck and just wanting to keep going but you cant. Looking around and everybody is just so happy but your not. You may act like it and look like it but you know yourself your not. The feeling of being desperate but don't know why or how to get what you need to move on. Look for answers in others instead of looking at ourselves. We loose that feeling of accomplishment in life if we stay stuck for to long. We need to figure out what we need to fix before moving on. To let ourselves move on we have to fix things personally, and make things right. To accomplish something that we know ourselves that will give us a purpose and reason to live. Thats how i feel.

Anger and Stress

So I was wondering how you let your stress out? what's your preferred way to release anger? I found that I was getting stressed by the pressure put on me by my parents and soon after I would start taking my stress out on my little brother and soon felt guilty for being mean. I remember going outside and playing soccer with my little brother who was about 6 or 7 at that time and I would make him the goalie.. well I made it my goal to hit him as he dodged the ball, i would particularly aim for his face. I would of course laughed my butt off at the sight of his pain. I continued with other things like making sure he knew I was in control when we were younger. I would tackle him to the ground and sit on him as he struggled to get me off. I also thought that was funny and found that I felt better after creating pain and fear in him. As I got older I realize how my actions have affected him, he started to have black outs of rage towards me, turn all red and come at me with his fist. I was still taller and stronger so I would hold him back and wait for him to calm down. I have learned that I should voice how I feel not physically show someone to make myself feel better. But I always get those little thoughts about bashing someone over the head with a frying pan or think of insults I could say to them. But I don't cause I've seen how its effect people in their lives. 

Talking to someone like a close friend, parents, or a therapist if you feel more comfortable telling a stranger all your secrets or thoughts may help. Another way in expressing yourself and releasing stress is art, pick up drawing, painting, ect. You can start sports or working out on a regular basis to blow off some steam. 

Communication in Relationships

So today's problem was how to do with relationships. I'm in a relationship and its long distance, even if its long distance we tend to argue like any other couple may do. As teens we can be more pushing about certain things and not realize how it maybe affecting the other person. We tend to take more often then give back to our relationships ending in break ups, more fighting. I have been told we see things at a more of emotional point of view, which sometimes may help but other times make our feelings about one another more confusing. Sometimes I'm not sure how to stay calm when we are arguing, sometimes I want to say I'm done but know that's not the solution to a relationship. You have to learn you weaknesses and strengths and theirs too.  Begin able to maintain a healthy relationship is hard and in a long distant relationship you tent to run out of things to talk about, or thoughts to share with each other. So I was wondering if anybody had any ideas to help ease the tension that maybe created in a long distance relationship? Anything may help. 
Its hard to think that when your mad how easy it is to give up, but when that little argument is over, you feel stupid cause if  you did end it, that means you wouldn't have your best friend anymore. I know you give attention and expect it from your other half. You need to let that special person in your life know that they matter and that you care about them. You can't just stop saying these kinda thing, you have to keep up with it, so they don't forget and feel unappreciated. You have to keep communication open in any kind of relationship. Be able to express yourself. 

Communication and Trust: A Teen Perspective

So, I have realized that many teens haven't figured out how to comunicate with their parents. They want to communicate about their feelings toward what they are maybe going through, but their parents may not be aware of it. As a teen, I know that my mom and dad don't know what Im thinking and don't know why I am acting the way I am acting unless I tell them. Also, as a teen, I wouldn't mind my parents asking questions nicely. Sometimes I don't want to tell them, but having the option to talk to them would be nice. Just knowing they care can really help. I dont always know how to talk to my parents about things without the fear of getting introuble or yelled at, but if my parents were calm about the situation, I might be more willing to open up. I also know as a teen sometimes trying to fix things by myself  will sometimes gets me into even more trouble, so I recommend that if you cant handle the situation ask your parents for help. If you can't ask them, ask a teacher or a close family friend to help you. Parents, you need to stay open minded for your teens, because todays sociaty is exciting and there is lots of pressure to fit in and get a good grades. For things to work out both sides, we must be open and willing to except and listen. Comunication is the main key along with trust to a good parent/teen relationship.